Since it’s so quiet here, why not a general question to get things started? How often do you have sex (however you define it) and how often would be your ideal? And any details you feel relevant.

We are mid-50s and the kids left at home are teens now so family responsibilities are eased (more free time) we average just over 1x/day, and my ideal is once or twice a day.

  • Green pelican
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    52 years ago

    Lucky you! I get once a year max - she has low libido due to some psychological issues, although I’m doubting whether that’s the full story. For me a few times per week would be ideal.

    • @RBWells@lemmy.worldOP
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      42 years ago

      Oh no! I had dead bedroom with my ex but husband and I are similar in sex drive, that does make everything smoother. I hope y’all can get closer to your ideal, once a year sounds frustrating for anyone, her too I’d imagine.

  • @qqqqtoast@lemmynsfw.com
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    32 years ago

    Mid 20s. Never had sex. I feel like daily would be ideal, but I don’t know if that would actually be true due to my lack of expereince.

  • Mistress Wendy
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    22 years ago

    40s and we manage twice a day most days depending on how busy life is

  • @musicalcactus@midwest.social
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    12 years ago

    We shoot for at least once a week. My partner would prefer 1-2x per day, for me I waffle between a couple times a month to a couple times a day. We’re currently working on our communication both in and out of the bedroom to try to improve on that.

    We have kids and stressful jobs, so that plays a role too.

  • @akassou@lemmynsfw.com
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    12 years ago

    Early 30s here, and I think once every 10 days or so on average. We became parents this year, and that definitely drains the energy